Dearest moon lover,
Let’s skip the toxic positivity today and talk about something a lot of manifestation teachers like to avoid: disappointment.
What happens when you do everything right—you pull your birth chart, you find your house address, you target your wishes, and you diligently do your subconscious reprogramming right before you fall asleep—and the thing still doesn't happen?
How are you supposed to "stay in the high vibe" when reality slaps you in the face?
We have all been there. We ask for something so specific because we truly, deeply believe we will be happier once we get it. And then? The universe straight-up doesn't deliver.
Maybe it’s that exact car you test drive & download into your vision board. You go back to the dealership ready to make it yours, only to find out someone else bought it an hour ago.
Maybe it’s a relationship you’ve been nurturing. You set your intentions for things to evolve to the next level, only for them to cheat on you or pull away right after.
Or maybe it’s a job you really, really wanted. You crushed the interview. You left the building buzzing with excitement because the immediate feedback was incredible. You’re practically spending your first paycheck in your head, only to get a cold, automated email a week later letting you know they went with another candidate.
It hurts like hell. It makes you want to throw your crystals out the window, delete your astrology apps, and give up on the whole thing.
But I want to share a personal conclusion I’ve come to after hitting these exact walls myself: Those setbacks are not punishments. They are interventions.
When you set an intention, you are assuming that the physical thing—the job, the car, the partner—is what will make you feel better. You assume it will bring you security, freedom, or love. As someone deep-diving into the mechanics of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) right now, I can tell you that your conscious mind only processes a tiny fraction of the big picture. Your brain panic-builds survival stories based on the past, but it cannot conceive of what’s actually coming next. You don't have all the answers, and thank fucking god you don't.
What if there was a better path that your conscious brain couldn’t even conceive of?
What if you didn't actually need that corporate job in order to make more money and feel completely secure? What if that car you test drove was hiding costly, exhausting mechanical nightmares down the road? What if that person cheating on you was the universe violently shaking you awake because you were about to settle for a lifetime of mediocrity?
I’ve learned to be at total peace when things don't go as planned. Now, whenever I write my wishes, I seal them with a very specific clause: This, or something better.
There are an infinite number of ways for things to go right in your life. When something slips through your fingers, it’s just the universe clearing the clutter out of your driveway so the real good stuff has room to pull in. It’s things getting out of your way.
In my guide, Make Your Magic, I talk about how the Full Moon is a mandatory clearing night. Sometimes, we do the conscious work of releasing. But other times, the universe steps in and does the clearing for us by slamming a door in our face. It stirs shit up before it settles it.
If you’re currently in that sticky, uncomfortable space where a door just slammed shut and you don't know how to stop the mental anxiety over what's next, stop trying to fight the door. You don't need a complicated 3-hour ritual right now; you just need a predictable, simple cadence to regulate your nervous system and help you clear the block.
You can grab Make Your Magic HERE to get the exact step-by-step framework I use to navigate the clearing phases without losing my mind.
Take a deep breath. Trust that your subconscious and the cosmos are currently collaborating on a plot twist that is going to blow your original plan out of the water.
You are being redirected. Something better is already on its way.
See you under the next moon,
Lesli | Intuitive Mother